I
saw Bill Belichick walking off the
field last night after his team, the New England Patriots, lost the
Super Bowl game to the Giants. He looked crestfallen. He must have
been both disappointed and upset that the Patriots had come so close,
and then lost. So must the team members. The Vince Lombardi Trophy
was presented to the other team.
Vince
Lombardi was a great coach. He was dedicated and determined, with a
nearly seventy-five percent average for regular season games, and
even higher for post-season play. For a while he was an assistant
coach for the Giants – the team that beat the Patriots. He was the
kind of coach who conceded nothing. “Winning isn't everything.
It's the only thing.” He wanted to win. And most of the time he
did.
But
Bill Belichick is also a great coach. He's had his share of
victories and defeats, though somehow or other defeats stay with you
longer than victories. Especially in the “big” games. I guess
that's true in all areas of life. We focus more on what might have
been than what is. Not that Belichick shouldn't be disappointed, but
that game is now behind him. It's better to hang up your
disappointment than your helmet. I suspect that, like the
professional he is, his focus now is on next season and finding a way
to do better than he did this year. It won't be easy, but nothing is
for a pro. And nothing is more satisfying than winning a difficult
battle.
I
rooted for the Giants, and I'm glad they won. They earned it. That
doesn't lessen my sadness for the Patriots. They worked hard and
prepared for a struggle which they knew would be difficult, but they
were looking for a prize that was worth the effort.
Unfortunately
not everyone in our society follows this model. And not everyone –
especially those who see the prize as something they deserve, no
matter what happens – will get a reward. The real reason they
don't get it is that they don't get it. We live in a world where we
want everyone to be a winner. “It's not whether you win or lose
that counts, it's how you play the game.” That's what we teach our
children. Everyone's a winner. Everyone gets a prize. It's nice
sentiment, but it's nonsense. Many of those who lose are losers.
They don't want to put in the effort necessary to win. They've grown
up in a society that rewards them no matter what they do, and never
makes demands of them, so why should they make demands of themselves?
Their expectations are for a prize even when they fail. And if they
don't get it, it's someone else's fault.
Not
so Belichick and the Patriots. No excuses. They lost. But they
lost like pros.
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